Susan Walsh writes the blog Hooking Up Smart, which I came across when she mentioned one of my columns in a post of hers. As Susan points out, players will often send a lot of basically meaningless "sweet" texts, along the lines of, "How was your day? Whatever you do, if you agree to a last-minute plan, also agree to go home with him! While we're on the topic of cellular communication, I will add: 3. It's different from the feeling of excitement and enthusiasm two people will feel when there's mutual attraction mutual respect. Players will not respond well if you voice hesitations about having sex.
In it, she made a number of smart points about players — and I'm summarizing the good stuff for you here. " and "Hey, just thought I'd say I'm thinking about you" and "Sleep tight." While this kind of thing is fine once you've established true intimacy with someone, if a dude is pulling this kind of BS before you've had four or five dates , chances are pretty good he's full of shit. Players text a ton one day — and then days and days go by with nothing. They will try to talk you into it instead of being cool with your desire to wait.
Most players will fall into one, or more, of the below 23 categories: The Blow Hard ...
Wannabes The relationship will never go anywhere because all he really wants from you is an 'audience' to listen to and believe his bogus stories of danger and bravery.
The Great Pretender These are guys that can't find dates for one reason or another and are unkindly labeled as 'losers, geeks' in the real world.
You met your dream guy on a Monday night at a social mixer. He takes your phone number and sends you a flirty text message on your ride home saying how he can't wait until Friday night. Well we say dated but it’s really just a fling as it was doomed from the beginning. Or can you change a player, stop him from chasing after the next woman and settle with you?Let’s find out: Main Entry: player Function: noun Etymology: possibly derived from the phrases “play him for a fool”, or “play him like a violin”.I think this is a power trip thing, or else just basic inconsiderate behavior, or else a ploy to get you feeling insecure and jumpy and greedy for any kind of communication from him. As Susan puts it, "Even if it's charming and he couches it in terms of wanting you really badly, it's still pressure. A man who wants something real with you will respect your decision about timing." Totally. Does any one of these rules, by itself, signal a player? They will know how to attract people and be a master at manipulation. One of the easiest way to spot a player is by the amount of time he spends online. Players love the company of women, enjoy spending time with them and cannot understand why a person would deny themselves the pleasure of more than one.